New kitten, can someone offer some advice?

Just got a new kitten today (female) 10wks VERY small. The place we got her was a dump. dogs everywhere, trashy house. We think she might have been underfed. she ate and drank so much when we got her home. She seems very scared/on edge. We have another kitten whom is very playful/aggressive ( male 5 moths). we're about to make a trip to MI. would it be good to introduce them outside of the home environment so our eldest cat isnt so territorial? the female went crazy when she saw herself in the mirror. Hissed and clawed. What would be best to make them get along? We tried kinda slow with another kitten we got, but our eldest cat bullied her so much she hated her life, so we were forced to give her up. now were trying again. any advice?New kitten, can someone offer some advice?
It is kind of one of those things you have to see what happens. Ive had many cats through out life. Older cats are always upset when you bring a new one into THEIR house. (thats the way they see it, of course)





I have had older cats eventually get used to it, ones that never get used to it but are totally fine, and I once had one get so sick of it that she ran away :(





I don't really think there is much you can do but wait and see.





Good Luck!New kitten, can someone offer some advice?
Put them together, while wearing rubber gloves. Give them each a distracting treat. Get another person and play with them, pet them, and love them seperately, but near eachother. They will have a breakthrough eventually. GOOD LUCK!!!
They need to be introduced in a home enviroment, as they need to know that this is home, and it must be shared.






In whatever environment you choose to introduce them, here is what I would suggest:





Put the older cat in a cat carrier or in a bathroom with the door closed. Let the new cat loose and let it get used to the environment. Let her explore for a half hour to an hour while the older cat is still in the carrier/room. Be sure the new cat knows that the older cat is where he is. The carrier might be better because then they can see and smell each other more easily.





This is good because the older cat won't be able to become territorial or bully the new cat until she has already had the chance to explore for herself. This also gets the cats used to each other as well as the new environment. If they hiss at each other a lot, keep them in seperate rooms or parts of the house for awhile, and make sure the new kitten has a safe place she can go to to get away from the older cat if need be!





Good luck!
Its normal for cats to literally hate each other the first time they meet. It can take weeks, even months before the dynamics settle down and order is restored. Maybe a visit to the vet for your little one will make sure that she is healthy and didn't pick up something nasty from the trashy house. As for introducing them in a neutral place, that could be a good idea. They always say when introducing new cats, is to give them a space that the other cat hasn't really occupied so they don't try and get territorial. Could work. Also, have both of them been snipped? This can lessen the territorial feelings in the male and also not have the new kitty so crazy about seeing another cat! You also need to punish you cat if he bullies her so much and vice versa. Let neither get away with anything and you should get a healthy relationship out of it.
Introducing the cats outside of home is only away of avoiding the inevitable clash that will occur between them at home. Your female kitty got scared and act aggressive towards her reflection because she thought it was another cat looking back at her. This shows that she is clearly very nervous in her current situation. In the beginning at home, you should definitely separate both cats, one living in one room and the other in another. After maybe a week, feed both of them on opposite sides of a door so that they can associate the pleasantness of eating and attention with the scent of the other cat. After a week of that, try feeding them in the same room but at opposite ends. Eventually the goal is that they can be together even when not being fed. If at anytime the larger cat intimidates the younger, slow the process. Allowing the larger cat to bully the younger will only make it more timid and unlikely to form friendly bonds with you and your home.