Serious Dilemma with new GF!!! plz read...need advice?

ok, I asked her out 3 weeks ago and she said yes. Everything was fine till her ex BF found out (she went out with him for a yr till he cheated on her) and all of a sudden he starts telling her how he wants her back. So, a week or so ago she told me that she still has feelings for him, but she likes me too and she honestly is SOO confused. I told her its her decision, not mine because i want to be with her and she knows that. My cuz has been in the same situation as my GF and told me that in her case she broke up with her new BF and they just stayed friends. Until she was ready and realised that she didnt want her ex anymore and just wanted to be with her new BF. I dont know whats going to happen...any advice or experiences? I just want a long and stable relationship wit her and im hoping she decides that shes willing to commit. In her words ';like i dont even know what im goin through rite now,i cant make it out exactly,i duno wtf im feeling';..';i dunno wtf i want';..sigh.what a situationSerious Dilemma with new GF!!! plz read...need advice?
The fact that she is thinking of going back to her ex after he cheated shows that she is more concerned that if she goes back to him, she will look like the fool. Sounds like she really wants to be with the exSerious Dilemma with new GF!!! plz read...need advice?
i think that you should give her a little time but not to much or she will think that she can take advantage of you and so on. Make her feel appreciated and let her know that she knows how you feel and if she don't know let her know.


I went through the same situation once before and i realized that my ex cheated on me so apparently it wasn't meant to be because if he did it once he would do it again so i told him no i don't have time for games and i believe that my new boyfriend will be faithful if he is trying to hard and that i couldn't take it so no and stuck with my boyfriend for a while (lol). So let her know and if she is that type of person who understands she will understand
Tell that she has a decision to make, don't let what she's going through hang you up, you deserve to know
Honesty is always the answer. Tell her how you feel. Let her know you will support her with the decision she makes and every decision she makes. Let her know you will be there for her, always. But only if thats what you really want man. Don't make promises you can't keep.
You are SO going to hate my answer. Sorry.





This chick is still hung up on her ex. You were the rebound guy. The next time they have a fight, she will call you and this game will continue for months if not years.





This one is not meant for you. Go ahead a grieve your loss then move on. Don't take her calls. And DON'T go out with her again. She basically told you that you were a runner up. You deserve first place. Go get it.
thats a tough one but i think u will lose this one, sorry buddy
YO,U MIGHT HAVE TO SIT THROUGH THE STORM..BUT I HOPE YOU WIN
You can only say liste, i really like you but if your going to chose your ex boyfriend thats it, i wont be your second choice if he hurts you again. Its your decision ill give you your time and space.
once a cheater, always a cheater.


however, if she still has feelings for him, she needs to get over those before she can get serious w/ you. make her know you care, but don't pressure her into a relationship. just hang out as friends at parties %26amp; things, until this blows over.
Back off. Let her get her feelings straightened out. Let her come to you. In the mena time, go out and have fun.
If she is still having feelings for her ex, there isn't anything you can do to change that. I agree with your cousin, be her friend, NOT HER DOORMAT! You guys haven't been together long enough to make huge sacrafices for each other yet. Although you want to be in a stable relationship with her, she's not in a place in her life where that is possible yet. There shouldn't be any questions or confusion...it just should be! Don't let yourself be hurt over another persons personal problems or issues. And while being her friend, keep your options open. The moment you stop looking for someone to be with-you find them!
more on. there's too many girls out there. you don't want to be waiting for anything in life. Carpe Diem. If you she's doesn't know if she wants you or him, then apparently her feelings for you isn't that intense.





You either lose by losing her, or you lose by getting her divided attention.
take a step back and just be her friend for now, let her work out her emotions so you can avoid the drama of her constantly changing her mind.


If she chooses the other guy, it wasn't meant to be but you got a new friend and plenty of other girls to choose from.
It seems like her ex only wants her because you have her and once she goes back to him they'll be broken up in no time so if you don't expect her to come back she most likely will. I know you said its her decision but maybe try to tell her that her ex is jealous. It sure seems like he is. There's really not much you can do though it is her decision and just hope that you and her can get through this and hopefully end as friends, bf and gf or just bffs. Good luck
Be careful... If someone has a history with someone, that person knows she could get back with her ex at any time. I have a recent ex girlfriend of 3 years and we could get back together at any time soon if we wanted but we both 'involved' with other people so that becomes an issue.


I think you should more or less give up with this girl, its going to be hard but you'll be okay and in future you'll look back and realise that it was not even worth worrying and you'll have some wisdom which means you'll learn to see the signs in the future and not get involved with someone too quickly!!!





Good luck!
She went out for a year with the guy right? that thing is not easy to get over. But look if you want a long and lasting relationship i suggest that you look for another girl... You guys are just starting and look where it has brought you? You're already confused and you don't know what you feel. what will happen next? oh well,,, let me just say take it easy.. don't easily fall for a person. get to know them.. because in the end you will be the one who will suffer the most.
her ex was sabotaging her.. and she somehow felt for him.. let her make a descion..