Advice about a new friend i just met and what she did to me last nite? i have 2 small kids. over the summer?

i met another woman, 2 kids at park/indoor play area. we became friends, exchanged numbers, meet at parks etc with our kids. yesterday she called to meet at mcdonalds play area. i went. brought one child cuz my other kid stayed and slept over her friends. i met her there with her 2 kids and one of mine. an employee and mcdonalds finished her shift and came over to talk to my new friend. it seemed like they already knew each other. my friend told me she was gonna walk her out (emloyee friend) to her car and would probably have a quick smoke and be rite back. i said ';fine, no problem';. well, she must have been gone for at least an hour leaving me not only to watch my son, who is only 4 and her 2 kids. i was so mad, i left with my son. when she saw me leave, she and friend ended talk quickly. she asked me where i was going. i told her i was leaving. she apolized. she called me later that nite about 4 times saying sorry. never answer her calls. what should i do. thanksAdvice about a new friend i just met and what she did to me last nite? i have 2 small kids. over the summer?
She's using you and you barely know her. It is not normal to treat someone you barely know like that.





Don't be friends with her.Advice about a new friend i just met and what she did to me last nite? i have 2 small kids. over the summer?
Don't bother calling her back. She's obviously irresponsible so there is no use getting sucked in by her. Incidents like you described will just keep happening and even escalate to downright taking advantage of you. You will be much better without her.
Personally I would be upset too. For a person to leave you hanging for so long shows absolutely no respect for you or your time! Also what kind of mother leaves her kids with a complete stranger?





I used to have a friend that did this to me all the time. She would constantly be late, be disrespectful of my time(Which is precious because at the time I too was a single mom.), and I decided that I couldn't handle this level of disrespect. n the other hand, she was also a good friend and had been through many ups and downs with me through the years.





So the question is....is she worth it to you?
well she was rude. if you want to keep your friendship tell her straight up you did not appreciate the abandonment since it was she that called you to meet. tell her the next time she should ask the other friend to join you instead of abandoning you.
ya dont call back! with her not knowing you very well, she must not be a good mommy leaving her babies like that!


Not saying you would hurt them or kid napped them, she dont know that. RIGHT!
You seem to think of yourself and not others. At least give your ex-friend a chance to explain. Than make your decision . The other woman is better off finding another friend. Good luck to you.
Order a big Mac and a diet coke.
Hi,





Well sometimes when friends get to talking you lose track of time. Since she is being so persistent with apologizing I am sure she didn't mean to leave you that long. Yes, it was rude but obviously she is aware of that. I would answer her phone call and accept the apology.
Well, if you like this woman and want to continue to be friends with her, I would say call her back and tell her how you feel. She seems pretty remorseful, but it is possible that this is just what she does, being that you don't know her very well.





If you decide to stay friends with her and she does it again or something similar, or just something as rude, end it. I am sure you can find plenty of other friends.
that was rude and inconsiderate, let her know that you did not appreciate what she has done. after 15 minutes or so, i would of went outside to see what was going on. atleast she is apologizing and notices she was wrong. work it out, things may be okay, she does it again, then you will have to get a new friend, that is responsible. bd
I would confront her and tell her that it was very rude and that you felt set up. Ask her who the other person was and what she was doing. Tell her that if it happens again, you will indefinitely end your friendship with her. But I would give her a chance to redeem herself. Just cool off and then give her a call back.
Has she done anything like that before? She might have gotten caught up in the conversation and not realized how long she had been out there. If she is normally a self centered person I would just avoid her and she will get the hint. If this is out of character then I would talk to her and tell her you just felt like she ditched you so she could talk with her friend and you could watch her kids... and she was the one that invited you. If she said she was sorry she probably was.
Give her a chance to give you a reason and make sure it doesnt happen again
There is no reason for being so rude. Answer her call, and let her blow hot air so she'll stop trying. Then tell her not to call you again.





Do you really want to be involved with a woman who is thoughtless enough to leave you sitting there with her kids and irresponsible enough to forget that her kids are there?
I think you should accept her apologies but make it clear to her that you did not appreciate what she did. Personally, I would not talk back to someone who would do me like that because that shows me that she only sees me as a babysitter and someone that is going to bow down to her and wait on her while she does whatever it is she wants to do. That's was so disrespectful and was definitely an ill decision made by her. She should feel bad for what she did. You are not her employee and you did not seek out this meeting between the two of you; she did! Give her the boot.
With 2 kids your life shouldn't be empty.This person seems to want a baby sitter than she wants a friend.Cut it off now before her rude and selfish nature gets the best of the relationship later.
shes taking advantage of you thats no friend
that was rude of her. How long have you known each other? not a prime example of excellent parenting skills on her part -- she walked away %26amp; left her kids for an hour? I'd not answer her calls either.
What she did was absolutely wrong and you are right... But people get caught up without knowing, belive me, i had a friend who did it ll the time, or maybe it was something importasnt to say and she didnt want to show you that it was personal.. Or you know smtimes you get to know something from the other person and its soo intreesting or it affects you in a way that you have to keep listening and you just forget about everything, I think you should lighten up, she called4 times right? so she knows it was wrong, people make some mistakes, Be forgiving, Why should you end everything coz of a silly wait... Although i think you are right to be mad...Think about it.
If you want to continue the friendship give her the chance to explain herself, but be sure to tell her exactly how you feel and that you NEVER want to be put in that position again. Good friends are hard to find and even harder to keep....
I am assuming your a single Dad?


She found a babysitter while she was hanging out with her friend.


She was totally rude. Avoid her!
If you still want to be friends with her that I would tell her that you didn't like her leaving you with her kids for so long and that if it happens again you cannot remain friends. Blunt and to the point.
What she did was rude, there's no doubt about it. To leave to make conversation with someone else while you watch her kids is very nervy. I'd be pissed as well if it happened to me. If you like being friends with this woman and don't mind her kids, then call her back. Explain that you felt you were being taken advantage of and that is not the kind of friendship you are looking for. If she values the new friendship, she will not do it again. But if it does happen again, I would end the friendship, no questions asked. PS - make sure playdates are at a different McDonald's so there is no chance of her pulling that again.
With a friend like her, who needs an enemy? I would call her and tell her how I feel, that it was rude of her to leave you with her kids that long. Tell her you felt like she was using you as a


babysitter while she spent time with her friend. Tell her you will not tolerate this in the future, if your friendship is to be pursued. If you do something with her again, and she says she is going outside to smoke, send her children with her. That should show her you are not a doormat!
Why didn't you walk out after ';ten minutes';?


You let her take advantage of you.
Tell her you want a divorce. If she refuses, tell on her.
First of all, after about 15 minutes and she hadn't returned you should have taken all the children out with you to speak with her - without anger, as in join in the conversation. Your new friend would have got the message.





She probably lost track of the time and that is giving her the benefit of the doubt. She apologised and obviously felt badly about what happened.





then you compounded the problem by not answering the phone when she called. it could have been sorted out if you had answered the phone the first time and spoken to her.











It would have been better for both of you if you had held onto your temper at the outset, gone outside with the children after about 15 minutes and joined in the conversation or after she called the first time, picked up the phone and explained how you felt to her.





However....you could think about phoning her to tell her that you were troubled by being left for nearly an hour while she talked to someone else (it was rude, there is no getting around it - something you do not need to spell out to her as she is aware that she was rude) and apologise for not answering the phone when she called.





No one is perfect and now because of your reaction, you may have lost a friend who because she is a single parent, would have welcomed a non-judgemental friend in the same situation.





Be a friend. Forgive and forget. Try again. Friends, real friends are hard to come by.
Leave her alone. She tried to use you as unpaid babysitter on the first meeting and will do it again. I have just cut off contact from someone who used me, and it is a bad situation to get into.
Tell her to hire a baby sitter next time if she wants to hang out with someone else.





You got used.
then u said u forgive nd never accept to be the maid again
Your not a free babysitter! That was very rude of her! Don't associate with her anymore.